I love my wife dearly and respect and value her opinions. But, I really, really don’t like arguing with my wife. Sometimes, though, we disagree about money, investments and financial planning. We see things differently and bring different experiences and thought processes to the table. She is an accountant and works with numbers every day. I work with people and love to manage money. We might be married, but we are two different people.
Sometimes, our disagreements translate into anger and frustration. It is easy to feel very frustrated when someone does not see things in the same way you do. Something that seems obvious to me is something that seems unclear or even wrong to my wife.
Angeris often our emotional response when we don’t get what we want. At the same time, anger often ends conversations and disrupts the progress that couples need to have when working together to solve their financial problems.
In other words, it’s nearly impossible to work with your partner to make financial decisions if either one of you is angry.
Yes, there are times when I’m angry because of something my wife has said or done, and there are certainly times when she’s angry with me. That’s a normal human emotional response to not having things go as you wish.
The difference between failure and success is how you handle that anger.